Silence

Silence is the most powerful punishment that one can get. I remember in my teenage years like other teenagers I wanted to do all cool, fun things young people in my age were doing.

Fortunately for me, I had caring and wonderful parents but at the time I did not realise that they were. I would go up with my friends till mid night, my mom used to call me a 100 times yelling for me to come home. I hated the fact that she was calling me, I felt like she did not want me to have fun and just be a n uncool freak who was always at home studying. I sometimes yelled backend she had enough and decided to give me the worst punishment “silence”.

The first time she did not say anything I was so relieved, I loved the idea of coming home and do whatever pleases me without a lecture. As time went by I missed my mom’s screams and the lectures she used to give me and then I decided from that moment that I loved being a mommy’s girl and I loved the attention I got from her and the way she used to yell at me. And I knew even though she was silence, what I was doing was killing her and we were both torn apart but we just kept quiet.

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. "

This is one of my favourite quotes by George Bernard Shaw 

People are so afraid to do the things they want because they are afraid that they might not work out the way they planned them. They are afraid that they might be judged for their mistakes but I am one of the people who don’t care about being judged.

I am always ready to do new things and ready for new challenges. I don’t care whether they do not succeed because at least ill know that I tried. Mistakes are a part of life, a person who failed trying is better that a person who did not try again. Mistakes are a good way of learning so even if you make a mistake be proud because you had the courage to do it.

Only bad things happen quickly

 I agree with this statement, bad things do happen quickly this is because we are not aware and we are not always prepared for them to happen. No one wants bad things happening in their lives so no one awaits for them, when they finally do it’s like a big rock has finally hit your head and there is nothing you can do about it.

Everything in life has its own time, whether good o ad we just all have to be prepared and be able to overcome them.

home is where the heart is

Ever since I finished high school, I became a traveller. I spend most of my time away from home and it’s been four years now but believe me the pain and the longing don’t get better.

Some days are better than the others but not even a single day passes by without thinking about my hometown, family and friends. I moved to Cape Town in 2009 because it was the only institution closer to home. When I left home I was so excited, couldn’t wait to get away from my parents. The thought of me staying alone was just too exciting but I guess I was just fooling myself.

There is no better place like home. I cannot wait to finish my exams , pack my things and leave Cape Town for good. 

The power of music

There is nothing more healing and powerful than a song. Whether I am having a bad or a good day I always find my comfort in music.

I sometimes think that there are specific songs that were written for me, when I listen to a song I make sure I am in a comfortable position. A song makes me relax, it makes me forget all my worries and only think about the good. A song can change my mood, when I am depressed, frustrated and heartbroken I always listen to Adele’s songs and hearing about her heart break and pain I forget about mine and feel sorry for her. When I am in a happy mood I always listen to the latest house music and dance.

“Music is the language of the spirit. It opens the secret of life bringing peace, abolishing strife."

If not now, then when?

I want to go out, travel the world and forget all my worries. I want to climb the tallest mountains, go on a boat cruise and have no care in the world.

I just want to leave everything behind, forget the past and not think about the future. I just want to be happy and leave only in the present. Just imagine leaving a wild life, party like no tomorrow, dance on the table and do whatever you want to do.

i want to spread my wings and fly away

I am young, have dreams and I am educated so if I cannot do all those things now then when?

True friends are best advisers

Think of the other things that you went through, how they affected your life, have you ever given up then?

My friend used to say “uThixo akanokunika umthwalo ongenakuwunyamezela” meaning that God can never give us more than we can handle. Every time I found myself in a difficult situation  She would just look at me without any pity and say “you are not the only person who has suffered, it’s up to you whether you want to get up and pull yourself o just lie there and feel pity for yourself” . Every time she uttered those words I felt angry, hurt and confused. I hated her for not comforting me but because of the hatred I felt for her, I also felt an urge that I wanted to show her that I can pull myself together without any help from anyone.

Now we are both older and wiser and I knew that she really meant well, she was teaching me not to rely on anyone but to be a woman who can take charge of her life.

Watch this space

In life there are people who looks down on others, they think they are much better than them and can do better.

Just because we grew up in different back grounds doesn’t make you better than I am. Just because I was raised in a disadvantage community with no running water or no electricity does not mean I cannot be a better person in life.

All I can say to those people who look down and judge others by their background is “watch this space” because you will waste your time looking down on me while I raise my head up high and climbing my ladder to success.

My favourite Cat in the Hat book is..............

My favorite Cat in the Hat book is.............I know I may sound dumb but I've never read a book about cats before. 

The only famous cat I know is Tom in a series animated cartoon film. Tom is a cat who is always chasing Jerry the little mouse.

He is not my favorite cat though because whenever he finally catches Jerry he never eats him so every time after watching the series I always ask myself, why was he chasing him for in the first place?

There are many reasons why I talk and make a conversation with people but it depends on the situation I am.

I like having a quiet time to myself but I get so bored and frustrated from listening to my inner voice and I also think it is interesting to have a conversation with a real person whose views and opinions differ from yours.

I sometimes make conversation because I am curious and want to find out something from someone.  There are some situations where I am forced to make a conversation, for example when I am around a group of people and have to be nice and polite and end up talking. I also make a conversation when I am bored on a train\taxi then I end up making small talks with anyone sitting next to me. I also make conversation with my friends because I love talking to them and they are the only people who I have my best conversations with.

I also feel that conversations are more effective and you get to know a lot from listening to other people.

Write your bucket list / 100 things to do before you die?

I've never written a bucket list before, there are so many things I want to do before I die I don’t even know where to start. this is the list of things i plan to do before i kick the bucket:

      Attend at least one major sporting event: the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the U.S. Open.

Throw a huge party and invite every one of my r friends.

Swim with a dolphin.

Skydive.

Have my portrait painted.

Learn to speak a foreign language and make sure you use it.

Go skinny-dipping at midnight in the South of France.

Watch the launch of the space shuttle.

Spend a whole day eating junk food without feeling guilty.

Be an extra in a film.

Tell someone the story of your life, sparing no details.

Make love on a forest floor.

Make love on a train.

Learn to rollerblade.

Own a room with a view.

Brew my own beer.

Learn how to take a compliment.

Buy a round-the-world air ticket and a rucksack, and run away.

Grow a beard and leave it for at least a month.

Give your mother a dozen red roses and tell her you love her.

Be a member of the audience in a TV show.

Put your name down to be a passenger on the first tourist shuttle to the moon.

Send a message in a bottle.

Ride a camel into the desert.

Plant a tree.

Learn not to say yes when you really mean no.

Write a fan letter to your all-time favorite hero or heroine.

Visit the Senate and the House of Representatives to see how Congress really works.

Learn to ballroom dance properly.

Eat jellied eels from a stall in London.

Be the boss.

Fall deeply in love -- helplessly and unconditionally.

Ride the Trans-Siberian Express across Asia.

Sit on a jury.

Write the novel you know you have inside you.

My big fat BIG dream.

My big fat dream, I think I should rather write 'my big fat dreams' because since I was a little girl I was a dreamer and I would dream about big things although I knew some were impossible but I couldn't help myself.

I dreamt about so many things and mostly I dreamt of being rich and famous, but now I guess I don’t want to be famous anymore but my big fat dream is to be successful.

I want to graduate and find a god paying job, I want to live in a castle, have a good loving husband with three children. I dream of having a perfect family, a warm loving home and more importantly I want to be rich. I guess I love many, maybe it’s because I don’t have any to spend but one day I hope will have more than enough. I think money makes the world go around; it opens so many doors and so many opportunities.

My big fat dream is to be rich and successful!!

You cannot chase two rabbits at the same time.

 This is one of my favorite quotes because it is a fact and I have experienced it as I am growing up. People used to say “u can be jack of all trades but master of none” this means that you can be able to think that you can do almost everything but never succeed in any of them.

In my opinions this quote also reminds us not to take more than we can handle. Just imagine one person trying to catch two rabbits at the same time. My mom used to say, if I want to succeed in life I must put my mind to it and focus on one thing because if I divide my attention I wont succeed anything

If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one

“Nothing is more dangerous than an idea, when you only have one idea” (Alain).

This is one of the few quotes I fail to understand; to me an idea is something that you only think about, something that is only on your mind so how dangerous can it be?

if it's on your head, it won't harm you

Whether you have one or two ideas as long as you idea is not put into motion then I don’t see any danger. An idea can be dangerous only when it is put into action without a backup plan and fails then it becomes dangerous.

I am...?

Who am I?  Most people struggle to answer this question although it may sound easy but it is the most difficult question that needs to be thought thoroughly. In order for a person to discover who they are they need to do self introspection or self assessment.

You need to discover the real you, and assess yourself. You need to know what your goals are and how you aim to achieve them. I remember when I was at school when a teacher would ask me this question, it was easier to answer it then because I was so young and didn’t think ahead I just thought about the present  and I only answered what I thought I was at the time ‘a student’. As I grew up and became older knew that I wasn't the same person I was, I was slightly changing and my dreams were also changing.

Now I am a B-tech student at the Cape Peninsula University and I am hoping to become a well known Public Relations officer, I am a dreamer, a believer. In a few years time that may change but for now that is who I am.................

Andy Warhol said, “In the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes.” You can’t choose the 15 minutes but why would you be world famous?

I have always thought to myself that one day I would be a star and I would be famous, I know that I have it in me to become a face of Africa. As I am growing up I am getting closer to my dream.

Just imagine if I could be given just 15 minutes for the world to see me, yes 15 minutes is not enough but I know I will make it a memorable one. I just don’t want to stand there and be known for my appearance but I want to be famous for the good things I’ve done.

For my 15 minutes of fame I want to tell people about the changes I have made for this country, I want to motivate people to become the best. And I hope that I’ll be always remembered as the person who made a difference in just a few minutes

Activities that makes me lose track of time

I have noticed that most of the time I always rush or do not have time to do the important things in my life because I always lose track of time.

I think my cellphone is one of the unnecessary things that i spend most of my time on. Everyday when i wake up, i always check new messages and reply to them and by the time I get up from bed i notice that it is already late.

Almost very night i make a list of things that i plan to do the following day but i end up doing only one if any of them. I feel like i cannot take charge of my life because i always fail to plan and do things according to my schedule.

Another thing that makes me lose track of time is television,  i  spend most of my day cuddling in bed watching TV and movies and when i start i cannot stop i even repeat the ones I've already watched. So i guess television, sleeping and social networks are the three things that really make me lose track of time.

A skill set called leadership.

Leadership is a process by which a person influences others to accomplish an objective. leadership requires various set of skills but before becoming a good leader a person needs to have an honest understanding of who you are, what you know, and what you can do.

Most people believe that a person is born with good leadership skills and it comes naturally but i believe that good leaders are made not born. If you have the desire and willpower, you can become an effective leader. a good leader should have the following set of skills in order to become an effective leader:

• Communication Skills
• Be Results Oriented
• Basic Leadership Skills
• Strong Teamwork Orientation
• Ability to Influence or Persuade People