The value of friendship

when I grew up I had many friends whom I called m best friends because we all used to be in the same class, eat together during break time and hung out together on weekends at the time i thought those were the main principles of friendship.

As I grew older I realised the true meaning of friendship, I realised that a best friend is not just someone you talk too when you are bored, someone you hang out with when you have nothing to do at home. But a best friend is someone who cares to listen, responds and gives you advice. A best friend is someone who won't talk behind your back or boast about your mistakes, she wont get jealous of your achievements but instead will be proud of you and celebrate them with you.friends come and go but you will notice that a best friend will never leave you.

Remember to choose a friend that meets your expertise , a friend who brings out the best in you and always value your friendship.

TRUE FRIENDS ARE PROUD OF EACH OTHER'S ACHIEVEMENTS

 "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Sometimes people think lying to themselves is the best medicine to boost their self confidence but the fact is it is a sign of denial and to be in denial is a sign of weakness because it means that a person is afraid to accept who or what she/he is.

Yes lying is healthy and its natural but a person has to have limits because lying to yourself can only harm you because at the end of the day it is you who you are kidding. sometimes we lie to ourselves because we want to feel good and we want to satisfy our inner selves and yes somewhere some how it gives us strength and confidence to go on but it can be dangerous too but it is always said that the most harmful lies are those that we tell ourselves. by lying to yourself will only get you in a corner that you would struggle to get yourself out of so it is a poor idea to lie to yourself.

there is a difference between lying and dreaming, make sure that you don't confuse your lie to your dreams because sometimes we leave on dream and dreams can come true but if we living a lie then the lies could backfire and start controlling our lives.

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The Happiest time of my life

The happiest time of my life is when I get to be around my family. Studyin in Cape Town is the best thing that ever happened to my life but it separates me from my loved ones.

When it's holiday time, I become so happy, I sometimes feel like jumping up n down with joy.Being at school is great and my life in Cape Town is great too but there is always one thing that is missing and that's my family. Living alone is fun but sometimes the loneliness gets to me. I sometimes sit in my room and just think and when I do that I know that my heart is longing for love. I know I have made some good friends who have made life easier, friends who are caring but somehow they never fill that space.

I sometimes look at them and thank God that I have them but my heart would still hurt and my mind will think back and miss home even more. Althought it's been four years but my heart doesn't want to get used to this life style.I always look at the calendar n look forward to holiday time and when finally the Semester ends and I cannot wait to get on a bus ande get home and that's the happiest time of my life.

Let God be the judge

It is so hard to face the world when you know that all eyes are looking at you

It is so hard to do the things you want to do when you know that people are always looking at your direction, waiting for you to make a mistake and then start pointing fingers or talk behind your back.

Imagine how simple life would be if there weren't so many people who'd rather occupy themselves with your life than focus on their own. I believe we all make mistakes and mistakes are a part of life and it's a way that we all learn and people have no right to judge us because of the mistakes we make. We end up letting go and not doing the things we love and make us happy because we are afraid of what people would think and what they would say. We are afraid to dress up in public because we are scared that people might not like the colour of the dress, the shape of our body etc but who are they to judge?

There is a saying in xhosa that "undibilisela amanzi nje kanti nawakho ayatsholoza" this basically means that when you point a finger at a person you forget how many fingers that are actually pointing at you. We should not judge people or be ready to point out their mistakes, we don't know what the future holds, we might be in the same situation one day. We must let people leave their own lives, make their own mistakes and learn from them. We are afraid to love the people we like so much because we are afraid what others would think.

Ithink it is only fair to let god be the judge because anyways who are we to Judge?......

We are what we do

Will people perceive me as an alcoholic?

Have you ever heard the saying that "our actions truly define our characters"? well, i don't really believe in this statement.

I truly do not believe that our actions truly define our characters because I believe that our actions are only a little piece of who we are. We should also consider thoughts and emotions because they are just as important. Our behavior can tell us a bit about how we react in certain situations but cannot completely define our character. For example, you are in a bad mood after a long day and you take out your frustrations on somebody else and start shouting at them, does your actions make you a bad person? i don't think so but people around you will judge you as a rude or an unfriendly person where as deep down you are a nice person.

I also believe on the fact that actions are based in judgement and moral value but sometimes certain situations make us act in certain manners and it is not right for people to judge us based on our actions because we all make mistakes. Sometimes good people make bad choices and bad people cover their bad characters by doing good things just to deceive people so we cannot entirely look and judge people by what they do because this does not define who they are.

Sometimes what we do affects our attitude but that does not mean people should determine our true characters by what we do but by who we are deep down in our hearts.

The sadness in your eyes

We all have those moments when you feel like giving up as if the world is the worst place for you. no matter how hard you try, life does not seem to get right.

You might think that you are the only one who has problems and ask god "why me"? You feel as if God is punishing you and is focusing on everyone else except you. Sometimes we have to face reality, we cannot have good days all the time eve on this earth it's not always a shiny day, there are times when the storm has to come and throw away evrything and whe thatday comes we have to hold on fast, we have to be stronger and make sure that we are prepared.

Rememmber those days would bring out so much sadness in your eyes but you have to be brave, think of all people who are suffering in this world, think of the homeless, rape victims and people who have gone through worse things than you. Never let the sadness in your eyes dissapoint you but let it be a lesson that will teach you to be stronger and appreciate life as it comes.

We will all go through bad days but do not let them bring sadness to your eyes.......

We are afraid of the wrong things

Sometimes the thing we fear the most are simple things that we should not be afraid of.

I remember in my first year i had to do a speech in front of all public relations management students, that was the scariest moment of my life. Everyday i would practice my speech and would think of the crowd and shake. When the presentation day came, i tried to fake a headache, a stomach bug and I even wished that i could have an accident so that I would miss my presentation but I knew there was no turning back I had to face my fears and raise my voice in a room full of students and guess what, i managed to say all the right words and felt so proud of myself.

After the presentation i thought to myself what if I got an accident that day, which one would be more scarier, the accident or the speech? from that day i knew that sometimes we fear the unknown because we do not believe in ourselves and we get afraid of all the wrong things that could actually bring out the best in us.

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