Silence

Silence is the most powerful punishment that one can get. I remember in my teenage years like other teenagers I wanted to do all cool, fun things young people in my age were doing.

Fortunately for me, I had caring and wonderful parents but at the time I did not realise that they were. I would go up with my friends till mid night, my mom used to call me a 100 times yelling for me to come home. I hated the fact that she was calling me, I felt like she did not want me to have fun and just be a n uncool freak who was always at home studying. I sometimes yelled backend she had enough and decided to give me the worst punishment “silence”.

The first time she did not say anything I was so relieved, I loved the idea of coming home and do whatever pleases me without a lecture. As time went by I missed my mom’s screams and the lectures she used to give me and then I decided from that moment that I loved being a mommy’s girl and I loved the attention I got from her and the way she used to yell at me. And I knew even though she was silence, what I was doing was killing her and we were both torn apart but we just kept quiet.

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. "

This is one of my favourite quotes by George Bernard Shaw 

People are so afraid to do the things they want because they are afraid that they might not work out the way they planned them. They are afraid that they might be judged for their mistakes but I am one of the people who don’t care about being judged.

I am always ready to do new things and ready for new challenges. I don’t care whether they do not succeed because at least ill know that I tried. Mistakes are a part of life, a person who failed trying is better that a person who did not try again. Mistakes are a good way of learning so even if you make a mistake be proud because you had the courage to do it.

Only bad things happen quickly

 I agree with this statement, bad things do happen quickly this is because we are not aware and we are not always prepared for them to happen. No one wants bad things happening in their lives so no one awaits for them, when they finally do it’s like a big rock has finally hit your head and there is nothing you can do about it.

Everything in life has its own time, whether good o ad we just all have to be prepared and be able to overcome them.

home is where the heart is

Ever since I finished high school, I became a traveller. I spend most of my time away from home and it’s been four years now but believe me the pain and the longing don’t get better.

Some days are better than the others but not even a single day passes by without thinking about my hometown, family and friends. I moved to Cape Town in 2009 because it was the only institution closer to home. When I left home I was so excited, couldn’t wait to get away from my parents. The thought of me staying alone was just too exciting but I guess I was just fooling myself.

There is no better place like home. I cannot wait to finish my exams , pack my things and leave Cape Town for good. 

The power of music

There is nothing more healing and powerful than a song. Whether I am having a bad or a good day I always find my comfort in music.

I sometimes think that there are specific songs that were written for me, when I listen to a song I make sure I am in a comfortable position. A song makes me relax, it makes me forget all my worries and only think about the good. A song can change my mood, when I am depressed, frustrated and heartbroken I always listen to Adele’s songs and hearing about her heart break and pain I forget about mine and feel sorry for her. When I am in a happy mood I always listen to the latest house music and dance.

“Music is the language of the spirit. It opens the secret of life bringing peace, abolishing strife."

If not now, then when?

I want to go out, travel the world and forget all my worries. I want to climb the tallest mountains, go on a boat cruise and have no care in the world.

I just want to leave everything behind, forget the past and not think about the future. I just want to be happy and leave only in the present. Just imagine leaving a wild life, party like no tomorrow, dance on the table and do whatever you want to do.

i want to spread my wings and fly away

I am young, have dreams and I am educated so if I cannot do all those things now then when?

True friends are best advisers

Think of the other things that you went through, how they affected your life, have you ever given up then?

My friend used to say “uThixo akanokunika umthwalo ongenakuwunyamezela” meaning that God can never give us more than we can handle. Every time I found myself in a difficult situation  She would just look at me without any pity and say “you are not the only person who has suffered, it’s up to you whether you want to get up and pull yourself o just lie there and feel pity for yourself” . Every time she uttered those words I felt angry, hurt and confused. I hated her for not comforting me but because of the hatred I felt for her, I also felt an urge that I wanted to show her that I can pull myself together without any help from anyone.

Now we are both older and wiser and I knew that she really meant well, she was teaching me not to rely on anyone but to be a woman who can take charge of her life.

Watch this space

In life there are people who looks down on others, they think they are much better than them and can do better.

Just because we grew up in different back grounds doesn’t make you better than I am. Just because I was raised in a disadvantage community with no running water or no electricity does not mean I cannot be a better person in life.

All I can say to those people who look down and judge others by their background is “watch this space” because you will waste your time looking down on me while I raise my head up high and climbing my ladder to success.

My favourite Cat in the Hat book is..............

My favorite Cat in the Hat book is.............I know I may sound dumb but I've never read a book about cats before. 

The only famous cat I know is Tom in a series animated cartoon film. Tom is a cat who is always chasing Jerry the little mouse.

He is not my favorite cat though because whenever he finally catches Jerry he never eats him so every time after watching the series I always ask myself, why was he chasing him for in the first place?

There are many reasons why I talk and make a conversation with people but it depends on the situation I am.

I like having a quiet time to myself but I get so bored and frustrated from listening to my inner voice and I also think it is interesting to have a conversation with a real person whose views and opinions differ from yours.

I sometimes make conversation because I am curious and want to find out something from someone.  There are some situations where I am forced to make a conversation, for example when I am around a group of people and have to be nice and polite and end up talking. I also make a conversation when I am bored on a train\taxi then I end up making small talks with anyone sitting next to me. I also make conversation with my friends because I love talking to them and they are the only people who I have my best conversations with.

I also feel that conversations are more effective and you get to know a lot from listening to other people.

Write your bucket list / 100 things to do before you die?

I've never written a bucket list before, there are so many things I want to do before I die I don’t even know where to start. this is the list of things i plan to do before i kick the bucket:

      Attend at least one major sporting event: the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the U.S. Open.

Throw a huge party and invite every one of my r friends.

Swim with a dolphin.

Skydive.

Have my portrait painted.

Learn to speak a foreign language and make sure you use it.

Go skinny-dipping at midnight in the South of France.

Watch the launch of the space shuttle.

Spend a whole day eating junk food without feeling guilty.

Be an extra in a film.

Tell someone the story of your life, sparing no details.

Make love on a forest floor.

Make love on a train.

Learn to rollerblade.

Own a room with a view.

Brew my own beer.

Learn how to take a compliment.

Buy a round-the-world air ticket and a rucksack, and run away.

Grow a beard and leave it for at least a month.

Give your mother a dozen red roses and tell her you love her.

Be a member of the audience in a TV show.

Put your name down to be a passenger on the first tourist shuttle to the moon.

Send a message in a bottle.

Ride a camel into the desert.

Plant a tree.

Learn not to say yes when you really mean no.

Write a fan letter to your all-time favorite hero or heroine.

Visit the Senate and the House of Representatives to see how Congress really works.

Learn to ballroom dance properly.

Eat jellied eels from a stall in London.

Be the boss.

Fall deeply in love -- helplessly and unconditionally.

Ride the Trans-Siberian Express across Asia.

Sit on a jury.

Write the novel you know you have inside you.

My big fat BIG dream.

My big fat dream, I think I should rather write 'my big fat dreams' because since I was a little girl I was a dreamer and I would dream about big things although I knew some were impossible but I couldn't help myself.

I dreamt about so many things and mostly I dreamt of being rich and famous, but now I guess I don’t want to be famous anymore but my big fat dream is to be successful.

I want to graduate and find a god paying job, I want to live in a castle, have a good loving husband with three children. I dream of having a perfect family, a warm loving home and more importantly I want to be rich. I guess I love many, maybe it’s because I don’t have any to spend but one day I hope will have more than enough. I think money makes the world go around; it opens so many doors and so many opportunities.

My big fat dream is to be rich and successful!!

You cannot chase two rabbits at the same time.

 This is one of my favorite quotes because it is a fact and I have experienced it as I am growing up. People used to say “u can be jack of all trades but master of none” this means that you can be able to think that you can do almost everything but never succeed in any of them.

In my opinions this quote also reminds us not to take more than we can handle. Just imagine one person trying to catch two rabbits at the same time. My mom used to say, if I want to succeed in life I must put my mind to it and focus on one thing because if I divide my attention I wont succeed anything

If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one

“Nothing is more dangerous than an idea, when you only have one idea” (Alain).

This is one of the few quotes I fail to understand; to me an idea is something that you only think about, something that is only on your mind so how dangerous can it be?

if it's on your head, it won't harm you

Whether you have one or two ideas as long as you idea is not put into motion then I don’t see any danger. An idea can be dangerous only when it is put into action without a backup plan and fails then it becomes dangerous.

I am...?

Who am I?  Most people struggle to answer this question although it may sound easy but it is the most difficult question that needs to be thought thoroughly. In order for a person to discover who they are they need to do self introspection or self assessment.

You need to discover the real you, and assess yourself. You need to know what your goals are and how you aim to achieve them. I remember when I was at school when a teacher would ask me this question, it was easier to answer it then because I was so young and didn’t think ahead I just thought about the present  and I only answered what I thought I was at the time ‘a student’. As I grew up and became older knew that I wasn't the same person I was, I was slightly changing and my dreams were also changing.

Now I am a B-tech student at the Cape Peninsula University and I am hoping to become a well known Public Relations officer, I am a dreamer, a believer. In a few years time that may change but for now that is who I am.................

Andy Warhol said, “In the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes.” You can’t choose the 15 minutes but why would you be world famous?

I have always thought to myself that one day I would be a star and I would be famous, I know that I have it in me to become a face of Africa. As I am growing up I am getting closer to my dream.

Just imagine if I could be given just 15 minutes for the world to see me, yes 15 minutes is not enough but I know I will make it a memorable one. I just don’t want to stand there and be known for my appearance but I want to be famous for the good things I’ve done.

For my 15 minutes of fame I want to tell people about the changes I have made for this country, I want to motivate people to become the best. And I hope that I’ll be always remembered as the person who made a difference in just a few minutes

Activities that makes me lose track of time

I have noticed that most of the time I always rush or do not have time to do the important things in my life because I always lose track of time.

I think my cellphone is one of the unnecessary things that i spend most of my time on. Everyday when i wake up, i always check new messages and reply to them and by the time I get up from bed i notice that it is already late.

Almost very night i make a list of things that i plan to do the following day but i end up doing only one if any of them. I feel like i cannot take charge of my life because i always fail to plan and do things according to my schedule.

Another thing that makes me lose track of time is television,  i  spend most of my day cuddling in bed watching TV and movies and when i start i cannot stop i even repeat the ones I've already watched. So i guess television, sleeping and social networks are the three things that really make me lose track of time.

A skill set called leadership.

Leadership is a process by which a person influences others to accomplish an objective. leadership requires various set of skills but before becoming a good leader a person needs to have an honest understanding of who you are, what you know, and what you can do.

Most people believe that a person is born with good leadership skills and it comes naturally but i believe that good leaders are made not born. If you have the desire and willpower, you can become an effective leader. a good leader should have the following set of skills in order to become an effective leader:

• Communication Skills
• Be Results Oriented
• Basic Leadership Skills
• Strong Teamwork Orientation
• Ability to Influence or Persuade People

My 200 top achivements

I am still a young person and at the age of 22 I might say I have achieved so much and I am proud of myself. this is the last of things I managed to achieve so far:

• My top achievement is obtaining my Diploma in Public Relations Management
• Passing  matric in 2007
• Passing my learner driver's license
• Doing a hospitality course in 2008
• Getting elected to run as SRC in high school
• Getting elected to run as the deputy chairperson of the residence house committee.
• Passing my matric and enrolling at CPUT
• Getting an opportunity to do my internship at CPUT
• Getting an opportunity to study hospitality and doing my internship in one of the well know hotels in SA, Protea Hotel.

There are still many things that would like to achieve in life, I have a set of goals and objectives and I hope that i will achieve most if not all of them.

WHAT MOTIVATES ME

There are lots of things that keeps me going in life, things and people that make me want to achieve more. I would say my parents and siblings are my motivation.

My mother is a domestic worker with 5 children but she managed to give us a wonderful life and good education. Although I want more finer things in life and wish that I had more money but I am extremely happy where i am. The strength my mother has motivates me, she has motivated me to do well in my studies, she taught me to be stronger and focus on my dreams.

My bigger sister is also one of the people who encourages me to do well, she has done well for herself too but she always tell me that I can do better. There are also other people who are not as close to me but just by seeing them I get so motivated and want to be like them.

The 10 most unexpected consequences of being online.

The world has changed so much and technology has taken over, things are now done electronically. People are more focused on the Internet, they socialise, read and buy things online. Although the Internet is easy, convenient and saves time it can have some unexpected consequences

.These are the 10 most unexpected consequences of being online.

1. Having a stalker, getting a cyber boyfriends who becomes obsessed and end up stalking you.
2. Being online is very distracting especially when it comes to school work, you take more time to finish an assignment because you keep on searching what's new on the Internet.
3. The Internet is a waste of time because you end up playing or searching unnecessary things while you should be doing other important things
4. The Internet can be risky for your health because it is not good to sit on the computer all day, you can get eye problems and other health problems.
5. you learn to trust people whom you have never met before and disclose you information which they can use against you.
6. There are many scams that can be used on the Internet, some can leave you with debts that yo do not even know.
7. Posting nasty comments about someone or your boss online and that person ends up knowing about them,this will cause you to lose your job or have enemies.
8. Make jokes that will turn into a huge media scandal.
9. Meeting new friends or reconnecting with the ones you thought you had lost
10. Cyber bullying

My phone is controlling my life

I always wonder if I am the only one who is addicted to her cellphone,I feel like it's controlling me and taking over my life. I can't go anywhere without it.

I own a blackberry curve and I hate it because it makes me lose track of time, I am so attached to it and has became my best friend. I no longer care about socialising, I don't even get the time to miss or hang out with my friends because I prefer to chat with them via blackberry and even if they come over to visit I hardly give them any attention.

I take time to do things or finish my chores because this "li'l devil" is on my hand. I hate the fact that it has more power and it's making me forget to spend time with the important people in my life. I feel like throwing it away but sadly I can't.

I prefer to talk with friends via BB rather than hang out with them

The elephant in the room

According to the online dictionary an elephant in the room is an  important and obvious topic, which everyone present is aware of, but which isn't discussed, as such discussion is considered to be uncomfortable.

when it is said that "there is an elephant in the room" it means that there is silence and indenial about something". For example in my culture (Xhosa) it is wrong to talk about sex and HIV with our elders. although they know that we are already sexually active and we getting pregnant they are taking a blind eye to the matter instead of advising us on what to do and how to prevent it.



{images from: utopiatheory.com}

Everyday is a good day

In life everything may not be perfect, life may not work out the way you want it to work out but it is best to take every day as it comes.

You will feel as if some days are harder, longer and  bad but do not be discouraged. Think of all the goods life has brought you, think of the the little things that made you happy, things that had brought joy and the blessing the lord has given you and remember every day is a good day.

There is a saying that says  "when life gives you lemons,make lemonade" this is a reminder that we choose our own destiny, if we want to be happy we can make ourselves happy by making the best out of everything and every day shall be a good day. 

always put up a smile and do the things you enjoy the most to make everyday a good day

MY FATHER

I am 22years old and all my life I have always lived with both parents, my mom and my dad which I call him "tata". My father is not like any other father, he is so different and lives in his own planet.

He has been there living with us but neither of his children have had any bond with him. I listened to people complaining how much they needed a father in their lives and I wondered what is it that they need from a father that a mother cannot give. My mom has always loved and took care of me, she gives me enough attention and I sometimes forget that I have a father because my father is just there physically but has never showed any interest in ou lives. he never asks me of how I am, what i want for my future, he doesnt even seem to care of any other things I do. I sometimes feel as if marrying and having children was not part of his plans.

"my mom is my dad"

There are so many things that I want to say to my father and so many questions i want to ask him but i cant because all he does is shut us out. i need a father not a dad, i need more from him because we are all growing old and he is growing old but neither of us has a bond with him. he never talks about things that matters to him or to us, he never cares whether i make a mistake or whether I succeed. my father just keeps quiet and i sometimes feel like strangling him to get words out of his mouth. he makes me angry because there is nothing that hurts like "silent" . I feel so lost and numb when my peers talk about their fathers, the things they do for them as their children and yet i am leaving with my father but i dont have any happy tales to tell. we never have any memories to tell, I want my father to change, I want him to start caring and I sometimes resent having him as a father. I hate the feeling but I cant help it.

I NEED A FATHER, A REAL FATHER!!!

what is the difference between living and existing

Some people would argue that living is the same as existing but to me living and existing are two different things. A  person who exists is just a person who has no vision or mission in life but a living person is a person full of life , a person who knows what she wants, who has dreams for the future.

It's just a pity i never felt like I exist because i always felt like I am living in this world because i gave out so much love and got even more in return. I did all the things that a person in my age should have done, i cried, i laughed, I was depressed and happy too. I never felt like my life had no purpose because i was always surrounded by friends and family who cared so much, people whom i knew i had so much meaning in their lives and people who always wanted  what's best for me. I sometimes did mistakes, I've hurt them and hated them when they interfered but those people never gave up because they knew that I was just living my life just like any other young girl.

Today I am happy that I am still living, I haven't achieve all my dreams but I know that I will be recognised and rewarded. I know that I wont be only making a difference in my life but to other people as well and to me that is living not just existing without any purpose and direction in life.

trying a cliche

Trying out a cliche is not a bad idea at all, because it teaches you didn't know about yourself. The best cliche I always try out is "When you have lemons, make lemonade" this cliche encourages you to have a positive attitude even when things are going bad.

There are many cliches that can bring positive attitude in life so I think people should not be afraid to try out cliches because at the end of the day its just a cliche, you wont lose anything by trying out just one.

[image from. afitandspicylife.com]

feelings follow behavior

Don't u notice every time you get hungry you always get up and make yourself something to eat and every time you need to relieve yourself you go to the bathroom? these things start with a feeling inside and then you take action because a feeling always follow behavior.

When you feel something inside whether you feeling happy, whether you are feeling hurt or frustrated you always do something to take out your frustrations or show your feelings. some people react in certain behavior on certain situation because feelings forces you to take action. Some people might not show how they feel immediately but some where somehow you notice that their behavior is changing and this is caused by feelings.

No matter how people are good at hiding feelings but their behavior will show how they feel inside because feelings are shown by the way we behave

Life is unfair!!!!

Yesterday I received a very disturbing phone from my cousin, I was so shocked when she told me about the death of a person so close and dear to my heart. she was a friend, a  sister and a person i knew very well and all I can say at that moment is "why, how".

I felt no emotions, I just lay there on my bed and thought how much I hated life. seems like every year I loose someone so close to my heart,it felt like yesterday when I lost  both my grannies, my 2 aunts, 3 my cousins oh my God the list is is endless and now its her, she was a very dear friend. It was two weeks ago when i last saw her and she was bubbly as ever, talkative and busy as always. sometimes I even ignored her because I knew  she could spend hours talking but that was her way of being friendly and loving and now i regret those moments. I wish I'd have listened if i knew she was talking to me for the last time.

As I lay there i went to look at her pictures on face book and her last status was about the wonderful weekend she had, only if she knew it was the last one. I kept staring at them and even now I am still shocked. Dearest friend Noxolo Sethosa better known as Noxy. MAY YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL REST IN PEACE.

[image from google.com]

Will this country ever change?

People may argue this and deny that there is still racism in our country and our government may hide this and promote South Africa as a democratic country which promotes unity but the fact is we are different and still suffer from discrimination.

It is so sad to read on the media how people comment ands use harsh words to describe other races in this country. SA is perceived as this perfect country who was saved from apartheid, a country with 11 official languages and a country that is ruled by a black president. A country with different races living together happily ever after but to be honest there is no peace and unity in this country. Blacks still refer to themselves as blacks and whites still refer to themselves as white people and each race lives on their own little world. We still use harsh words to describe each other and we still discriminate each other from one another.

Our standard of living is still different, white people live in their own suburbs, black people live in shacks in dodgy communities and coloured people also live in their own community. when a black person leaves in white communities then the officials will question that. I don't think this country will ever change even though black people are given opportunities but we are so used with our poor standard it is hard to keep up and we are so used to be second best because we are never offered a high standard of living, I guess it is not for us and we are happy with this life i don't know why our government is trying so hard.

I don't think this country will ever change, we will always be unique and different. Let's just find a way to leave with one another and stop pretending.

[image from google-south african government]

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

There is a saying that action speaks louder than words and talk is cheap because what is the use of saying something when there is nothing that can be done about it. It is sometimes better to make action than talk a lot because action produce results.

Our government is known as one of the people who talk a lot and practice a little, because when they manifesto. they promise us houses, free education and promise a lot to the poor and the homeless but at the end of the day nothing productive comes out of it. I think it is best for people to keep quiet and do something than say something before they do it. Talk is cheap because it is so easy to say and plan something but the most difficult part is to put a plan into action.

A person may promise you the world and all it contains but the most important part, can that person actually give you all those things? I think it is better to believe a person who talks less and practice more because action speaks louder than words.

Wedding cake-in-the-middle-of-the road

A wedding is a very happy and special ceremony between two people who are willing and ready to share their lives together and it is believed that in a wedding there should be a wedding cake because its a symbol of a perfect and a healthy marriage. So what if the wedding cake ends up in the middle of the road?

it was a busy saturday morning in Knysna and everyone who is everyone was gettinng ready preparing for Thandi and Nathi's wedding. The couple were dating for only two years when Nathi suddenly asked for Thandi's hand in marriage, it was the happiest day in Thandi's life and became a night mare when her parents refused to give them their blessings. "You hardly know anything about this man Thandi" her mother had said, but all her dauughter said was that she and Nathi loved each other and that is all that matters. "i will marry him mama with or without your blessings" those were Thandi's last words to her mother.

during the wedding preparation, nothing went right. everytime she went for her dress fittings her designer told her she had gained weight and had to start all over again. the caterers cancelled on the last minute but Thandi did not give up she continued and her best friend told her "Thandi you really need your parent's blessing for you marriage to be a success" but Thandi couldn't care less. on her wedding day when Nathi was transporting the cake to the hall, the cake suddenly fell in the middle of the road and  thandi burst into tears. Thandi's family and friends said to Thandi, this was a sign that she could not get married without her parents blessings. thandi also thought to herself how can i marry Nathi when our wedding cake is in the middle of the road, where will our marriage end up?......

wedding cake falls before the wedding, reciepe for disaster!!

Everyone was waiting in the altar, wondering whether Thandi will show up or not with her wedding the cake still lying in the middle of the road.

The value of friendship

when I grew up I had many friends whom I called m best friends because we all used to be in the same class, eat together during break time and hung out together on weekends at the time i thought those were the main principles of friendship.

As I grew older I realised the true meaning of friendship, I realised that a best friend is not just someone you talk too when you are bored, someone you hang out with when you have nothing to do at home. But a best friend is someone who cares to listen, responds and gives you advice. A best friend is someone who won't talk behind your back or boast about your mistakes, she wont get jealous of your achievements but instead will be proud of you and celebrate them with you.friends come and go but you will notice that a best friend will never leave you.

Remember to choose a friend that meets your expertise , a friend who brings out the best in you and always value your friendship.

TRUE FRIENDS ARE PROUD OF EACH OTHER'S ACHIEVEMENTS

 "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Sometimes people think lying to themselves is the best medicine to boost their self confidence but the fact is it is a sign of denial and to be in denial is a sign of weakness because it means that a person is afraid to accept who or what she/he is.

Yes lying is healthy and its natural but a person has to have limits because lying to yourself can only harm you because at the end of the day it is you who you are kidding. sometimes we lie to ourselves because we want to feel good and we want to satisfy our inner selves and yes somewhere some how it gives us strength and confidence to go on but it can be dangerous too but it is always said that the most harmful lies are those that we tell ourselves. by lying to yourself will only get you in a corner that you would struggle to get yourself out of so it is a poor idea to lie to yourself.

there is a difference between lying and dreaming, make sure that you don't confuse your lie to your dreams because sometimes we leave on dream and dreams can come true but if we living a lie then the lies could backfire and start controlling our lives.

[image from google]

The Happiest time of my life

The happiest time of my life is when I get to be around my family. Studyin in Cape Town is the best thing that ever happened to my life but it separates me from my loved ones.

When it's holiday time, I become so happy, I sometimes feel like jumping up n down with joy.Being at school is great and my life in Cape Town is great too but there is always one thing that is missing and that's my family. Living alone is fun but sometimes the loneliness gets to me. I sometimes sit in my room and just think and when I do that I know that my heart is longing for love. I know I have made some good friends who have made life easier, friends who are caring but somehow they never fill that space.

I sometimes look at them and thank God that I have them but my heart would still hurt and my mind will think back and miss home even more. Althought it's been four years but my heart doesn't want to get used to this life style.I always look at the calendar n look forward to holiday time and when finally the Semester ends and I cannot wait to get on a bus ande get home and that's the happiest time of my life.

Let God be the judge

It is so hard to face the world when you know that all eyes are looking at you

It is so hard to do the things you want to do when you know that people are always looking at your direction, waiting for you to make a mistake and then start pointing fingers or talk behind your back.

Imagine how simple life would be if there weren't so many people who'd rather occupy themselves with your life than focus on their own. I believe we all make mistakes and mistakes are a part of life and it's a way that we all learn and people have no right to judge us because of the mistakes we make. We end up letting go and not doing the things we love and make us happy because we are afraid of what people would think and what they would say. We are afraid to dress up in public because we are scared that people might not like the colour of the dress, the shape of our body etc but who are they to judge?

There is a saying in xhosa that "undibilisela amanzi nje kanti nawakho ayatsholoza" this basically means that when you point a finger at a person you forget how many fingers that are actually pointing at you. We should not judge people or be ready to point out their mistakes, we don't know what the future holds, we might be in the same situation one day. We must let people leave their own lives, make their own mistakes and learn from them. We are afraid to love the people we like so much because we are afraid what others would think.

Ithink it is only fair to let god be the judge because anyways who are we to Judge?......

We are what we do

Will people perceive me as an alcoholic?

Have you ever heard the saying that "our actions truly define our characters"? well, i don't really believe in this statement.

I truly do not believe that our actions truly define our characters because I believe that our actions are only a little piece of who we are. We should also consider thoughts and emotions because they are just as important. Our behavior can tell us a bit about how we react in certain situations but cannot completely define our character. For example, you are in a bad mood after a long day and you take out your frustrations on somebody else and start shouting at them, does your actions make you a bad person? i don't think so but people around you will judge you as a rude or an unfriendly person where as deep down you are a nice person.

I also believe on the fact that actions are based in judgement and moral value but sometimes certain situations make us act in certain manners and it is not right for people to judge us based on our actions because we all make mistakes. Sometimes good people make bad choices and bad people cover their bad characters by doing good things just to deceive people so we cannot entirely look and judge people by what they do because this does not define who they are.

Sometimes what we do affects our attitude but that does not mean people should determine our true characters by what we do but by who we are deep down in our hearts.

The sadness in your eyes

We all have those moments when you feel like giving up as if the world is the worst place for you. no matter how hard you try, life does not seem to get right.

You might think that you are the only one who has problems and ask god "why me"? You feel as if God is punishing you and is focusing on everyone else except you. Sometimes we have to face reality, we cannot have good days all the time eve on this earth it's not always a shiny day, there are times when the storm has to come and throw away evrything and whe thatday comes we have to hold on fast, we have to be stronger and make sure that we are prepared.

Rememmber those days would bring out so much sadness in your eyes but you have to be brave, think of all people who are suffering in this world, think of the homeless, rape victims and people who have gone through worse things than you. Never let the sadness in your eyes dissapoint you but let it be a lesson that will teach you to be stronger and appreciate life as it comes.

We will all go through bad days but do not let them bring sadness to your eyes.......

We are afraid of the wrong things

Sometimes the thing we fear the most are simple things that we should not be afraid of.

I remember in my first year i had to do a speech in front of all public relations management students, that was the scariest moment of my life. Everyday i would practice my speech and would think of the crowd and shake. When the presentation day came, i tried to fake a headache, a stomach bug and I even wished that i could have an accident so that I would miss my presentation but I knew there was no turning back I had to face my fears and raise my voice in a room full of students and guess what, i managed to say all the right words and felt so proud of myself.

After the presentation i thought to myself what if I got an accident that day, which one would be more scarier, the accident or the speech? from that day i knew that sometimes we fear the unknown because we do not believe in ourselves and we get afraid of all the wrong things that could actually bring out the best in us.

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fish falling from the sky

In this world all the things that we thought were impossible become possible, who have thought of seeing a fish fall from the sky?

I recently read an article on the web about a small town in Australia who eperienced this traumatic incident. Lajamanu is situated 400 miles South of Darwin in Australia's Northern Territory and people got a shock of their lives when they saw fishes falling from the sky instead of rain. Some took buckets so that these fishes would fall into them and some were so amazed by this ordeal that they watched on their windows, scared to come out of their houses to see what was really happening on that unregular rainy day.

Scientists and research found out that this ordeal was mainly caused by tornados. They suck up fishes from the rivers and throw them wherever they want to and then the fishes would be scattered all over the places. so wherever you see fishes coming from the sky do not seem ti be amazed, just take a bucket and pick them up for supper mayb it is God's gift to his children

Things that makes me smile

Sometimes people seem to think that the only thing that can put a smile on a person's face can be bought but to me it's the little things that makes me smile.

I never grew up in a rich family or had a comfortable, advantaged background as I wish i'd have but I grew up in a warm and loving family. Like other chidren in my community my mom managed to make sure that I had everything I needed and made sure she got me a present on every christmas. Thosse are the little things that made me smile, a secure home, a loving family and a good neighbourhood.

I always smile when I see peace in the world and when everybody is happy ang getting along with each other. Achievement also puts a big smile on my face, when i work on something i always get scared and ask myself "what if it does not work out"? but if i=I manage to succeed i just smile and keep on doing it. Being around friends who cares so much and who appreciate me makes me alot happier.

The thimgs that makes us smile are the things that keep us going so make sure that you are around people who puts a smile on your face rather than those who always get you down.

Dreams can come true

If you dream big and hold on fast to your dream then you can be whatever you want in life. dreams can be easily achieved if you are willing to work harder and be patient for them.

I remember the time i finished matric and used to play and wear my sister's graduation gown, my dream was to finish my degree and become a lawyer, but because of financial problems i had to take a gap year and stay at home after matric. It was the most difficult phase in my life, I felt that this was the end of the road for me and lost hope that I would never graduate and reach my dreams.I would sometimes sit at home and cry because at the time I had nothing to do and all my friends were out there furthering their education.

I told myself that I can do this, I will apply at CPUT, I will work harder until I become what i want in life. My parents also managed to save money for me to go to school and the following year I came to Cape Town and decided to study Public relations management. It was the longest three years of my life but i knew that the road I decided to take will not be easy so I came prepared and ready for my journey

I am now doing my Bachelor of Technology and looking forward to graduating for my National Diploma in April. A dream come true!!!

what is the color of the wind?

People have different views and opinions as to what the color of the wind is. Some say it all depends on the temperature, some even say it is blue but in my opinion I would say the color of the wind is transparent.

Have u ever walked on the streets in a windy day? The only thing u will see are the tress shaking, you'd see their leaves falling off to the ground. People would be holding fast to their belonging and you would know that this is a windy day. There is no clear color of the wind. On a windy day usually the clouds fill up the sky and suddenly becomes colder.

Usually the wind is a sign of rain,because most times after a strong wind it rains. The sky becomes darker and birds will start singing. In my own opinion I think that the color of the wind is transparent the only thing that changes color is the sky on a windy day depending on the temperature of the wind.

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letting go doesn't mean you are giving up

There is a a point in life when you get tired of trying to fix everything and trying to make everyone happy and then you finally decide to quit and let go.

letting go does not mean that you are weak or giving up but it shows you are strong enough to see or realise that the path you have taken is not for you. Our past mistakes seem to control our future because we still keep on holding to them and sometimes we let our minds control our bodies. Letting go can only be easy if u are prepared to let go. holding on to something that you know is not worth holding on is very hurtful, it does not only destroy your heart but can destroy your soul too. Sometimes we have to sacrifice the things we love, we have to let go the people we love go and set them free because there is a good reason they cannot make it to your future. Being around people who don't really serve your interests will not make you any happier, it will only hurt and make it difficult for you to go on with your life.

When you let go and set something or someone free, you have to prepare yourself. allow your heart to grieve, allow yourself to cry. You must also let go of the anger and hatred. this is not a sign of weakness but it's a sign that you are stronger even if you cry everyday There will be a day when you wake up and realise that the tears have dried the anger is gone and this will lead to forgiveness and a forgiving heart is a happy heart. Holding grudges can only be hurtful to the person who is holding the grudge because you will always carry the hurt and the anger that is inside. You will never allow your heart to be free if you are still angry about the past.

Never hold on to something that is not worth you while, let go of the past and forgive and forget. Allow your heart to be free........

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If i were the boss

Being a boss is not as fun and easy as it seems, being a boss means being a leader, a controller, a decision maker and believe me it is the hardest task ever.

Imagine if i could be the boss, it means that i have to act fast, think fast and be able to lead by example. As a young learning Public relations officer i was taught most of these things, i was taught how to communicate and solve a crisis so i think i could be the perfect boss. If i were the boss i would make sure that i get respect from my staff and respect cannot be bought or forced but it is earned. I will make sure that my employees look up to me and see me as the perfect example. I dont have to force them to like me but i will surely go out of my way to please them, by doing this i would expect them to go out of their way to please to please me as well.

My employees will not only know me as the perfect, sweet and caring boss but as a boss who who knows where to draw the line.I will only be kind to my staff if they are also kind to me. I would make sure that I create a peaceful working environment for my staff but that doesn't mean that I would be a "walk over". I do not expect my mployees to give me special treatment, I would interact with them but that does not mean I would socialise with them. In the work place I prefer proffesioanalism, whether I become friends with my employees but they should always know that I am the boss and therefore i should be treated with dignity and respect. If i were the boss I would make sure that my employees work harder and motivate them into going the extra-mile and not only do a job because they have to but to do it with love and passion.

If i were the boss I think I would surely be the perfect boss who always sets up her goals and objectives. A boss who motivates and drives employees to become the best and produce the best.

When will i be free from these rules?

Most people believe that life has no rules but i live the opposite. imagine if i could do whatever i want i think i would be a cheerful person.

My dream is to travel the world and explore things. I want to spread my wings and fly away but at home they decided to make the rules for me and i was forced to obey them. they told me when i was older i can do whatever i want but i am now 22 years old and still living under their rules. I don't think I'll be old enough, to my parents i will always be this little girl who should live to their expectations.At home they told me that when i am 18 i can make my own decisions and my 18th birthday came and they told me when i leave school and go to Tertiary i will be on my own but the time came and yet i am still required to follow the rules i followed 22 years ago. i always ask myself "will i ever grow up". i want to feel free and do whatever i want, i want to go wild and not be scared that i will break the rules, when i am doing something i don't want to do it thinking "what would my parents say". I want them to be proud of me but i need happiness as well and being happy meant doing something that completely satisfy me.

i want to be free, i want to free myself from these rules so that my life could be full of joy and happiness. When the day comes i will be jumping up and down with joy.

Two people come out of a building and into a story.

It is always good to have someone to accompany you when you are going somewhere, wether its a friend, a relative or someone you know.walking alone in a big busy city can be dangerous.

A student was really bored after a long day at Tech and asked her friend to accompany her for some drinks, as they were coming out of the building they were approached by two men. One man offered to give them a lift to the club and they accepted not knowing what the guy's intentions were. after they came out the guys immediately offered to carry their handbags and escorted them to their car. When they got in, there was another guy who was driving, he took out a gun and pointed it at them demanding that they should sleep with them but the other girl screamed so loud that the nearby securities heard the scream and in an instant they were surrounding the car. They called the polica and were charged with attempted rape.

After the incident the two students never trusted anyone and learnt that it is always good to walk with someone when you are going somewhere and that you should never trust strangers that you meet infront of a building.

The life we are living

We never seem to get enough in life, whether its money, love or education we always want more. Rich people although they are said to be rich, they still feel that they need more money to survive. the problem is that they do not appreciate what they have .

We really don't know what we want from this life, people are always complaining that they need love and want someone to love but when a good partner comes then that person is not good enough for them. To me life is a big puzzle that cannot be resolved, i sometimes ask myself "what if we were given instructions on how to lie our lives?". Were we going to suffer from all the greediness and selfishness of this world?. i remember once a person saying to me "life is not a bed of roses" at the time i was young i really never thought about what it meant but as i was growing up i realised that there was more to life. I discovered lots of things, i learnt a lot of things too. life brought me a lot of pain, tears and misery but t also brought me a lot of joy and happiness too.

I realised that life is life and sometimes we cannot control the things that we go through. One thing i know is that life teaches us so many thing bu the most important thing it teaches us is how to be strong.

How hard is it to follow instructions

I am sure most people are struggling to get this right, following instructions is not an easy task unless u are a good listener and get the best instructor. just imagine you are givem a task and inorder for you to have better results you need to follow the instruction, somewhere somehow you will lose focus and end up doing what you were not suppose to do. this will result to "not following instructions".

Being told what to do is not really easy, you need to listen atentively, ask questions, show interest and make sure that you understand what is required from you. after you are clear on what you are suppose to do, make sure that you go through your instructions step by step then following instructions will not be as bad as people think it is. as long as u LISTEN,UNDERSTAND and ASK.